What are the contents of your thoughts?
Right now, take a moment and do a quick inventory. You don’t have to change them, or even judge them. Like a scientist practicing naturalistic observation, just sit for 10-30 seconds, noticing the internal monologue within…
What did you find? Errands to run? People to contact? Emails to reply to? What else is floating around up there?
For many of us, in addition to the daily to-do’s, there are worries, judgments, and appraisals. Thoughts about ourselves and our lives. Sometimes these can be
positive, but often, our thoughts can tend towards the negative.
Negative thoughts about your career, your appearance, your life, your self are common.
Negative thoughts are part of what make us human.
Known to psychologists as negativity bias, we come hardwired with a sensitivity to negativity. Although in some cases it can help us to be aware of our imperfections and shortcomings, an over focus can sap our energy and take a toll on our self-esteem and our performance in various parts of our lives.
A Penny for Your Thoughts
- Black or White Thinking: Thinking only in extremes (aka all-or-nothing thinking).
- Arbitrary Inference: Generalizing one negative comment or experience to be representative of everything in your life.
- Mental Reading: Presuming you know what others are thinking.
- Catastrophizing: Thinking that the absolute worst thing that can happen, will happen.
- Emotional Reasoning: Presuming that feelings are facts.
- “Shoulds”: Focusing on how it “should” have gone down, as opposed to how they actually are.
- Personalization: Making something about you when it actually has nothing to do with you.
Any of these negative thought patterns sound familiar? Also known as cognitive distortions, these styles of thinking often lead to discouragement, frustration, anger, sadness, and a slew of other negative emotions.
These emotions lead us to act in ways that oppose our goals! When you’re discouraged and thinking negatively, you’re less likely to take a risk, push yourself hard, or persist with a challenging goal.
How Can I Stop This Negative Thinking?
Now, once you’ve worked that out in your mind, consider this: What are the outcomes of your negativity? In other words, identify what you get out of your negativity…
- Is this type of thinking productive?
- Is it helpful?
- Is it beneficial for anyone/thing?
If not, let’s change your thinking and set you on the right path to getting the thoughts, feelings, and outcomes that will lead to goal achievement, productivity, and happiness.
1. Call Yourself Out
Just simply noticing the negativity can help you to slow down and even stop it.
2. Look at the Data
What is that thing? Where is it coming from? Is it productive and in support of your goal?
Getting some perspective is the next step in stopping negative thoughts, and getting back on track.
3. Reframe, Regroup, Move Forward
When you use your thinking for good and create new, positive thoughts that lead to productivity, you are able to unstick yourself and continue moving forward.
4. Focus on the Present Moment
This can be helpful at work and during other challenging times in life, but it is especially effective at the gym. If you are thrashing yourself and/or beating yourself up about your weight, your plateaued progress, or some other outcome, shift your thinking to what you are doing in the present moment.
See if you can make all of the contents of your thoughts about right here and right now, completing a pull-up with perfect form, feeling every sting and push of the foam roller, or noticing your feet corkscrewing into the floor while you deadlift.
If you get present and focused on your task, stress and anxiety will wane, negative thoughts will subside, and you’ll have the added benefit of stronger lifts with better form.
So, What Do You Think?!
Here are some final tips:
- Remember, you have the power to change your thinking. Actually, it’s all you – no one else.
- Keep in mind that repetition fosters habits and shapes beliefs. Your negativity may be automatic, and you will therefore need to practice the skills listed above to create new habits of productive habits and beliefs.
- Changing your thinking is possible and effective! It will have positive effects that cascade into every area of your life.
Good luck! And let me know how it goes.
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