Strategy can be a really great tool, but will not determine our success. We do. And most of us don’t really know that our unconscious mind, conditioning, and past pain are actually driving 90% of what we do.
Ever feel hijacked by your own self-sabotage? There’s a good reason why most people don’t ever really overcome their internal sabotage. The answer may surprise you.
The fear of losing love and acceptance from your friends or family is a classic form of self-sabotage that gets right to the root of our most primal instincts to fit in, to be validated and to seek love. So, how can we step out of our own way?
Oftentimes when we look at our past, we have a dream of the way things were supposed to look. We have hopes and expectations that have gone unfulfilled. In order to become who we want to be, we need to let go of who we thought we should be by now.
If you’re a living, breathing human being, you have undoubtedly sabotaged yourself. Self-sabotage represents a special kind of pain that, over time, I’ve come to recognize as a gift. Here’s why.
Cross-posted from SoulBodyLife.com.
Beth Wittig Clayton is a health and natural weight-loss coach, and creator of Soul Body System at Mark Fisher Fitness, a 10-week mentorship where you will learn to bridge the gap between kick-ass nutrition and extreme empowerment with your body and, ultimately, with your life. Can you afford not to make this change?
Yesterday, I went to get a tooth pulled. I pushed the extraction off four separate times because, well, I act like a huge baby when it comes to tooth pain, and oftentimes, I would rather push pain off and have it loom over my head than rip the band-aid off. Can anyone relate? After my husband, Josh, demanded I get it done, I finally went in. Although I was dreading it, one thing secretly excited me…Nitrous Oxide. I had never had it before and I heard it was downright great. I was excited for the excuse, like a kid about to have their first taste of wine at a wedding.
Once upon a time, I was working with an actress who was on the brink of BIG success. She had tasted some pretty incredible opportunities but something was keeping her feeling stuck and she wasn’t quite sure what it was. She wasn’t booking and she didn’t feel like she was hitting it out of the park anymore. Now, as any in the industry knows, she could have been hitting it out the park and still not booking, but somewhere in her, she knew that wasn’t the case. She knew she wasn’t putting her best foot forward. She was creating excuses to avoid responsibility for the vision she created (for her body, health and career).
Your stress and anxiety levels have an important message for you. They do. But when you stop listening to them or forget how, they must scream a little louder to get your attention. And they will.